Response to:
"Sex outside marriage holds a relationship together."
Usually, only naive girls think that sex holds together a relationship. Girls, if you have to give a guy sex to keep him you don't really have a love relationship you have a contractual relationship. I say this because if the only reason he stays in the relationship with you is because you give him sex then as soon as you stop giving him sex or he finds someone else who gives him even more, he'll split. If he is in the relationship to get to know you for who you are, enjoys being around you, and doing stuff together, then you don't need sex to hold on to him.
I'd like to delicately propose an insight to you. Could it be that you don't think very highly of yourself? You think that there isn't anything about you other than your body that anyone could be interested in. If that's the case sex is definitely not the solution. It will only delay the real solution. You need to discover the wonderful things about the real you and see through God's eyes that you have infinite worth. He made you in his own wonderful image. He proved that you have infinite worth because He, Himself, came down out of heaven to die for you to pay the penalty for all your sins. Talk about chivalry! He sacrificed Himself to make you acceptable and approvable in God's sight. And now you can have a relationship with the only One who can love you with a perfect love.
If you want a guy to be committed to you first you have to find a different kind of guy. Ask God and wait patiently for Him to provide a guy who will love you unconditionally; for that kind of love is the only force that will strengthen and hold together a relationship. It is a love that wants the best for the other person, not immediate gratification of selfish lust. That kind of commitment is called "marriage."
References
Budziszewski, J. How to Stay Christian in College. Colorado Springs: NavPress. 1999. p. 85.
Copyright 2005. Gary C. Burger and New Media Ministries. This article may be reproduced and distributed freely as long as it is done so in its entirety. If quoted it must be properly cited as a reference.
